Meet me online

The other day I met an old friend and spent few hours in a most unusual conversation. We discussed online dating.
In fact, she is in a virtual relationship for about 7 months now and she's never been happier. And no, its not just a flirt. She is really serious about it.

The guy is currently in USA but his family is from her town. He spent one summer here, 2 years back, and thats how they met.. After that summer they started chatting, slowly but steadily started spending hours and hours together, finally resulting in them spending each and every free moment online. Some 7 months ago he actually told her he is in love and asked if she would be his girlfriend.. And she only waited for that itseems.

And so their love saga started. Without a kiss, without  holding hands or a hug.. And I really admire them both. She is here, faithful and waiting for him to come back (hopefully) next summer to finally kiss his girl, and he is all loving and caring and sweet. How on Earth do these relationships last, when even ones with physical contact go to hell after a while, without even knowing why? Makes you believe in destiny..

I tried to joke about it, just to see how she reacts.. Told her the only reason its working is because he is away, no need to fight well known qualities of men- laziness, obsession with football, video games and beer with friends... Hes not bothering her with these, he is using all the time they spend together to show her how much he loves her, to sweet talk her till she faints... Then it crossed my mind.. This relationship works because they actually talk.. They talk, get to know everything about each other, to show emotions in some more creative way than just.. smooching. They talk because thats all they can do, and it actually is the best thing they can do.

So, good side of an online relationship is that all the time they spend together is quality time. Of course, they probably argue and fight sometimes, who doesn't.

Bad side? Many. After a while, a relationship without physical contact is, well.. condemned to fail. Also.. You can never be sure what you hear is truth. Never. Not even talking to your family. And let alone internet lover. Its so much easier to lie on Internet, right. No way you can get caught. At least thats what many think. The truth is, every lie gets revealed eventually. Other bad side... What happens when you finally meet? Good thing about these two is they already saw each other before. But what happens when you see someone for the first time, after having an online romance with them? Nevermind the looks this time, but will the chemistry you had work 100 percent after you meet? Or you get confused.. disappointed.. whatnot.

Another thing.. What happens with these that actually never meet in real life? How do they break up? Something like ''I'm so sorry honey, but I think we should start chatting with other people.'' Or ''Its not you, its me ok.. I just know you deserve a better online lover, someone who can make you laugh out loud at his messages..'' Or '' I met this girl, you know...Chatting with her makes me feel like never before in my life.. We have this weird chemistry going on, even typing same things at same time We still can be friends, just not on Facebook, she is bit jealous. We can hang out at Orkut, noone uses it anyways today so she won't come to know''...


 Donno.. sometimes online dating seems so pointless and silly. And falling for someone you actually never met. But on the other hand, how much do we know about people we meet in real life and fall for them? Not much really. And now this all thing with online dating actually seems same as dating in reality. Physical contact excluded. Which can also have good sides, if you come to think about it. At least for a while.

Something just makes me end this girly style ( guess its the fact I am a girl)
No matter if you meet online or in reality, it is all same.. If you found your soulmate, it makes no difference really. All you have to do is be yourself, believe in destiny, give all you can, learn to be patient and listen and talk.. And of course, keep dreaming and that dream just might come true. What matters is that you love each other and fight for your love. So you will eventually get rewarded by finally hugging the one you 'virtually' fell in love with.

P.S. This all does not apply if your significant other played the role so well you were not even aware, until the final moment of meeting, that he was in fact a 13 year old fatso WoW addict. Or an elderly gentleman with hell lot of grandkids and boring wife, and free time and some serious typing skills. Or a serial killer. Or an alien. Unless you are seriously open- minded.